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Surrender & Flow

Did anyone else JUST realize that it’s almost the end of the year? I’ve been booking into January and it surprised me the other day to realize that 2024 is almost a wrap. I feel like, more than ever, I’m spending my time and awareness in the present moment, which seems to help me lose track of time (which may be the point-ha!). As I realized it’s the end of the year, I’m curious about what happened because I haven’t been tracking it- What did I learn? What, if anything, has changed this year?  


I stopped setting goals a few years ago, so I’m not trying to “do” anything. It’s been interesting to notice that as I’ve shifted away from the “need” to be results-driven, I actually seem to be “accomplishing” more while doing less and having more fun. It’s almost as if letting go of my need to control the outcome of things lets me be in the flow of abundance of the Universe or something (haha!). 


That’s actually been a focus for several years now- releasing the need to control and detaching from my desired outcome (or another way of putting it would be to release my expectations or ideas of what SHOULd happen- because remember: “should” ALWAYS comes from the personality body). Of course, the idea of control is universal. I see it in myself, and I see it in clients and friends as well. Whether it’s in relationships, spirituality, business, or something else, we tend to get an idea of what we want something to look like and we grip and pull and try to make it happen. It’s usually well-meaning- we want to be of the best service, we want to hold our highest possible frequency so we can entrain others, we want to provide for our family, etc.

But this is the old way to do things and is like going against the current of the Universe. Sure we can paddle upstream, but downstream is easier and just as beneficial.


I’ve always understood that in theory, but it wasn’t until a few years ago that I realized I actually COULD let go of the paddles and REALLY stop paddling upstream. I was afraid because I’d been taught the opposite of that. If you wanted to succeed in life, you have to work hard and struggle. I got really good at that. Then I realized there’s a higher way to do it. 


As my grip on the paddles softened, I decided that my ONLY job in life was to be in flow, and everything else is secondary. To me, being in flow means I’m connected to and receiving guidance from my higher self, and I’m holding my highest possible frequency in that moment (and my capacity varies- some days I can hold a higher frequency than others, and that’s ok). But ONLY from the flow state would I “do” anything. My continuous question became - “Am I in flow?” 


When the answer is yes, I would proceed. The next question for me would be- “What’s my next positive step right now?” or “What’s my highest choice in this moment?” or “How can I flow energy in the most life-enhancing way right now?” and wait for the answer. 


Now, I’ve seen this part get sticky for clients- “But I don’t have direct communication like you do”. The thing to remember is that the answers from your higher self can come in a variety of ways- I didn’t always hear or feel, or see anything like I do now. But our Higher Selves/The Universe/God (however you like to see this) WANTS us to have the answers we need- WANTS us to be in our highest potential, and will therefore FIND A WAY to communicate with us. It’s our job to be open to ALL the ways information can come through. Sometimes it’s direct revelation, but oftentimes, the answer will come through a book, or billboard, through a conversation with a friend- there are as many ways to receive messages as there are messages themselves. Our job is to be OPEN to allow them to come in and not decide ahead of time what that “SHOULD” look like.  (That was a bit of a tangent, but this part is important.)


One thing to be clear about is this: being in flow doesn’t mean we don’t DO anything- we just attend to what comes up differently. Instead of pushing or forcing ourselves to get things done, we move from a place of inspiration. We learn to “hear” (perceive) the subtle nods that direct our actions, which allows us to relax and trust in the perfection of Divine Timing. 


When the answer to “Am I in flow?” is no, the next question becomes: “What do I need right now to get in flow?” And wait for the answer. For me, it varies depending on why I’m out of flow. It can be anything from needing to meditate or journal to breathing, going for a walk, or simply relaxing. Other times, I need music or mantras to help me shift. 

Two of my favorite mantras over the last few years have been: “All is Well. All is in Divine Time” and “Let it go & Let it Flow”. These are particularly helpful for me when I get grippy. 


I also made a playlist that has over 16 hours of music that helps me shift my energy (Sometimes it takes longer than others to get in flow- haha). It’s an interesting mix of music that you might enjoy, too. 


But, that’s been my simple practice that has supported HUGE shifts for me. I find now that I don’t have to ask the question as often. These days, I’m more aware of where I am, and I find myself more easily able to hold steady the light. 


There’s lots more I could share from this year- now as I look back, I realize that it’s been an incredible adventure, but this might be the thing that has been my greatest gift to myself. 


I find that as I surrender and allow myself to be carried with the flow, I’m in the right place at the right time, things work out for me, and I no longer feel the need to worry about the future. It doesn’t matter what I’m doing or where I’m going because I finally understand the truth that All is Well and All is in Divine Time. It is my intention for you that this supports you in the same. 


Love to you,

Carly 


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